What should you do if you have made the decision to end your marriage?
It can take years, trust me.
Forgive yourself. You are not perfect, never will be, nor is any marriage. You tried your damnedest I am sure and you will beat yourself up over and over. Everyone can tell you what is right or not, but your heart knows the truth. When your heart is not in the marriage it becomes toxic.
Focus on financials. If you are not working you are probably going to need to get a job. Marriage divides a family and all the expenses. Suddenly you have two households and all the costs that come with it. There are huge opportunities for skills you possess that you have probably never used! If you have not been working, you will be surprised at what you can accomplish when you need to do so. Think about what you have loved to do for others or yourself. People will pay you and want to help you. Network among the people you love and trust.
- Talk among the people you love and trust. They will help you. I found an army of friends who wanted to help me no matter what. The love and generosity you feel from others is an absolute miracle. I was delighted to see the best side of so many people. They want to see you succeed and be happy. Especially your friends who are happy and content. Trust that they want the same for you.